Once upon a time, we were told that if we followed the rules, worked hard, and played nice, life would reward us. Someone would notice. A boss, a mentor, the universe—”someone” would swoop in, tap us on the shoulder, and say, “Congratulations, you’ve made it.”

Newsflash: No one’s coming.

But before you spiral into existential dread, take a breath. Because here’s the secret they don’t tell you: that’s the best thing that could ever happen to you.

Radical Self-Reliance: The New Power Move 

Waiting for a promotion, a break, or someone to finally see your potential? You might as well wait for a text back from that situationship. The truth is, the people who get ahead aren’t necessarily the smartest, the most talented, or even the hardest working—they’re the ones who “decide” to take control. They give themselves permission. They create their own opportunities. They make moves before they feel “ready.”

Because here’s the thing: No one is keeping score of your effort. No one’s watching your life like a reality show, waiting to crown you the next breakout star. If you want something, you have to make it happen.

What Are You Waiting For?  

Fear of rejection? Impostor syndrome? A cosmic sign that “now” is the right time? Let’s be real—if you’re waiting to feel 100% ready, you’ll never move. Readiness is a myth. Action is the only thing that breeds confidence.

Think of the people you admire. The women who walk into rooms with an air of “I know exactly what I’m doing”—even when they don’t. They aren’t fearless. They just move despite the fear. They start the business before they have it all figured out. They ask for the raise before they feel “qualified.” They walk into spaces they weren’t invited to—and then own the room.

So, what’s stopping you? A lack of permission? Consider this your official go-ahead.

Reclaim Your Narrative

One of the biggest lies we’ve been sold is that success comes to those who deserve it. That if you’re good enough, “someone” will take notice. But the reality? Success comes to those who “demand” it. Those who don’t wait for approval. Those who stop asking for a seat at the table and start building their own.

And here’s the best part: When you stop waiting for someone else to save you, you realize just how powerful you are. Because if you are the one in control, then the possibilities are endless. You get to write your own story. You get to set the terms.

No more waiting. No more hoping. No more “maybe one day.”

Because no one’s coming to save you—and that means you get to save yourself.